What To Do (and What Not To Do) If Someone Threatens Your Kid with Hell

This is a guest post written by DavidG. McAfee. He is author, most recently, of The Belief Book

.…Suppose you’re a non-believer and someone tells your child that he will go to Hell for not believing a certain thing or because he’s not baptized. What do you do?

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Whether it’s at school, or with friends, or at a religious event of some kind, if you know children who aren’t being raised (some may say indoctrinated) with a particular religion, this situation is bound to arise.
That’s partly because the idea of Hell is associated with many religions, so no matter where you live or who your kids associate with, it’s likely they will meet somebody who believes in it. In Christianity, it’s called Hell. In Islam, it’s called “Jahannam.” But it’sall the same in practice.
The second reason this issue is common is that kids will be kids. If they are taught that Hell is real andthat non-believers will be sent there, there’s a chance they will bring it up to their classmates and friends who they think fit those descriptions. And children who are threatened with Hell will be kids, too. That is to say that, because they often don’t know any better, they may be scared that this place is real and that they should do anything they can to avoid it.
That’s where you come in.
What you should do:
* Educate them about Hell :        You should teach your child about the subject up to his or her level of understanding. A seven-year-old might not be able to understand the intricacies of the world’s major religions, but he may get that “some people believe in a bad place and others don’t.” It may be helpful to teach them about a wide variety of beliefs and why people believe the things they do. This is what I tried to do in The Belief Book, my children’s book on the origins (and importance) of beliefs and religions.

*.Encourage freethought:
Help promote critical thinking by asking important questions. This could be anything as simple as, “Do you believe Hell is real?” or as specific as, “Do you think a realloving god would burn his creations ?” These questions, when asked politely and without judgment, will help children thinkfor themselves and follow ideas to their logical conclusions.

*.Explain faith and evidence :
Anyone being threatened with an unknowable afterlife, whether it’sa child or an adult, should understand that there are other people who don’t believe the threat is a real one. They should be shown that all afterlife-concepts are based on guesses (and wishes) made by people, and that there isn’t any scientific evidence pointing to a posthumous lake of fire. This discussion is important because it effectively eliminates the threat. For those who don’t believe in eternal damnation, warnings of it don’t have the same effect as they do on believers. In that sense, telling non-believers they’ll go to “Hell” is like threatening to feed unicorn meat to a vegetarian — and realizing that can put one’s mind at ease.
What you shouldn’t do:

*.Forbid exposure:
Educating children always works better than limiting them. If you tell them not to read Holy Books and not toask questions about religion, you are suppressing knowledge about those topics. You are keeping a small person, who wants to know more, ignorant so that you can remain comfortable. Although William Lane Craigand other religious apologists sometimes remind members of their flock to “Quit reading and watching the infidel material,” I would never try to keep someone from exploring religions and learning all they can. I would never encourage an atheist to avoid the Bible, for example, out of fear that its strong arguments might compel that person to believe.
*.Recommend ridicule: You should not tell any child to make fun of his or her friend or classmate for believing in Hell or other religious concepts. If you tell yourkid to feel sorry for the “dumb people who believe in fairy tales,”you’re not only teaching them to be insensitive, you’re being factually incorrect. Many believers, including very young ones, are very intelligent. They may believe what they do because they have been taught todo so — in many cases to the exclusion of other worldviews.
*.Tell them that there is no God: I think it’s perfectly fine to tell a child that the inherently torturous realm of “Hell” doesn’t exist, especially as it is represented by many believers today, but it’s not a good idea to dictate beliefs when it’s unnecessary. Teaching children how to think and come up with good answers will always be better than simply telling them what to believe and what to reject
— and this applies to every topic.
I think most non-believers would say that teaching children that they will suffer for an eternity based on their beliefs is a form of child abuse, and it’s important to note that many believers would themselves agree. But for some people who believe in Hell, they think they are just reporting what they know to be true when they teach their kids about its fiery depths. A quick Google search of “things to tell your children about hell” reveals, for example, that the top Christian parenting result recommends eight things “kids should know about Hell.” These things include “The Bible speaks of hell in many places,” “Hell is a placeof annihilation or never-ending punishment,” and “No passage in the Bible says that there will be a second chance after death to turn to Jesus…”So, whether we like it or not, beliefin heavens and hells and other afterlives is commonplace in many cultures and will likely continue to be so for the foreseeable future. These concepts are created becausepeople fear death and wish for ongoing life, as well as because of our inner quest for “justice,” and we don’t need to stop them entirely. We should, however, be able to understand and explain these beliefs in the proper context and eliminate whatever power they hold over us and our children.

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David G. McAfee is a religious Studies graduate, journalist, and author of The Belief Book, a children’s book explaining the origins of beliefs and religion, and Mom, Dad, I’m an Atheist: The Guide to Coming Out as a Non-believer. He is also an editor for Ockham Publishing and a contributor to American Atheist Magazine. McAfee attended University of California, Santa Barbara, and graduated with bachelor’s degrees in English and Religious Studies with an emphasis on Christianity and Mediterranean religions.

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‘Touching wood’ most popular superstition

Touching wood is Britain’s most popular superstitious belief, a psychological survey revealed today. Next came crossing fingers, avoiding walking under ladders, not smashing mirrors, carrying a lucky charm, and worrying about the number 13. Women were generally more superstitious than men, and the Scottish appeared to be the most superstitious people in theUK, the findings showed.
Dr Richard Wiseman, from the University of Hertfordshire, carried out the survey as part of National Science Week. He said today: “This is a self-selecting sample, so we need to treat the results with some caution. However, they have given a real insight into the world of superstitions and what people believe. It also appears that the rise in science and technology has not stopped people holding unusual beliefs.”
Current levels of superstitious behaviour in theUK were surprisingly high, he said. The Scots topped the superstition league table, followed by the English, the Welsh and the Northern Irish. Women were more superstitious than men, and young people more superstitious than older generations. Superstitious people tended to worry about life, have a strong need for control, and feel uncomfortable with ambiguity.
A total of 2,068 people took part in the superstition survey by answering questions on a website. Some 77% indicated that they were at least a little superstitious and/orengaged in some form of superstitious behaviour. A total of 42% indicated that they were”very/somewhat” superstitious.
Surprisingly, a quarter of peoplewho said they had a background in science belonged to the latter category. Almost 20% of people revealed that they had felt moresuperstitious over the last month, raising the possibility of a link with the increasingly turbulent economic and political climate.

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Atheist Bloggers Under Attack in Bangladesh

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Writers in Bangladesh are on high alert after the second murder of a blogger roccurred in just five weeks within the capital of Dhaka. Both victims were found “hacked to death” after writing a number of articles against religious fundamentalism.
The first murder of Avijit Roy, a Bangladeshi-American, occurred while in a rickshaw with his wife. According to reports, armed men attacked the rickshaw while en route, brandishing large knives. Roy was killed, while his wife sustained major injuries.
Roy was famous for his Free-Mind Blog and various books that delved into touchy subjects in Bangladeshi culture including homosexuality. According to family members Roy had been fielding hate-filled threats for some time.
The most recent blogger, Washiqur Rahman, had also written posts online which were critical of religion and Islam. Althoug haccording to reportshe had told friends he wasn’t worried about threats as his personal photo wasn’tonline and he wrote under the pen name Kutshit Hasher Chhana — which translates to Ugly Duckling —in the end this did little to ensure his safety.
Rahman was attacked with knives and meat cleavers, maimed so badly that police had to use his voter identification card to verify his identity. Bloody cleavers were also found at the scene of Roy’s death five weeks ago. Although suspects have not been identified, the identical nature of the attack has led many to believe the two murders are connected. So far there have been no leads in the identity of the killers.Criticizing religion in Bangladesh is often considered a dangerous act and reprisals against ‘freethinkers’ are not uncommon.
In January of 2013 a spate of killings began whenaward-winning blogger, Asif Mohiuddin, who also self-identifiedas an atheist was stabbed outside his office. Mohiuddin survived his attack and continued writing his blog.
In February Ahmed Rajib Haider, another atheist blogger, was attacked, succumbing to his wounds. And then, again in early March that same year,Saniur Tahman, an activist and blogger who took part in demonstrations against blasphemy laws, was also stabbed, although he survived the attack.Of the killers who were caught and prosecuted for these murders, most were loosely affiliated with Islamic groups. Very few were interconnected outside of religion. Meaning these are not planned attacks by one organization, but groups that have decided independently to murder writers. To many, this shows a widespread problem with intolerance in Bangladesh, rather than an isolated faction.
This atmosphere of violent repression against anybody who speaks out against fundamentalist religion tapered off slightly in 2014, but many are worried it has come roaring back with a vengeance.
Reporters without Borders’ Benjamin Ismail, who runs the Asia-Pacific desk,condemned the Bangladeshi government for not doing enough to protect their independent writers. “We offer our condolences to Rahman’s family andfriends,” Ismail wrote. “We condemn the government’s failure to protect bloggers, especially those who cover or comment on religion, fundamental freedoms and extremism of all kinds, and we again urge the prime minister to combat this growing violence or else all non-religious thinkers will flee and strict self-censorship will dominate all public debate in Bangladesh.”

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